Unrequited Love – III.
June 9, 2014 § 4 Comments
What images do those words conjure up for you? What feelings do you have? Do you think of a certain person? Your favorite scene in a love story?
Being the “hopeless romantic” that I am, it makes me think of the scene from “The Notebook”, where they are making love, for the first time, by the piano in the old house. Do you know the scene I’m talking about? If you’re offended by this type of thing, don’t watch this clip…
I’m not sure there is anything more beautiful than two people who are passionate about each other.
2-3 Kiss me—full on the mouth!
Yes! For your love is better than wine,
headier than your aromatic oils.
The syllables of your name murmur like a meadow brook.
No wonder everyone loves to say your name!4 Take me away with you! Let’s run off together!
An elopement with my King-Lover!
We’ll celebrate, we’ll sing,
we’ll make great music.
Yes! For your love is better than vintage wine.
Everyone loves you—of course! And why not?(Song of Solomon, Chapter 1, The Message)
Love will make a person say and do some pretty extreme things.
The sweet, fragrant curves of your body,
the soft, spiced contours of your flesh
Invite me, and I come. I stay
until dawn breathes its light and night slips away.
You’re beautiful from head to toe, my dear love,
beautiful beyond compare, absolutely flawless.
(Song of Solomon, Chapter 4, The Message)
Oh, the Song of Solomon. Talk about a book of passion! It’s the Bible’s version of a Harlequin Romance Novel! Freaky, funk-nasty, doing and saying things and feeling ‘some kinda way”! Woohoo! Let’s get it on!
And then there’s…
Have you ever “fallen for someone” who didn’t reciprocate those same feelings? Ever been so head-over-heels for a girl or a guy and experienced the crushing that comes when you realize they may never return your love?
Have you ever been kept out of someone’s “world”? Told that you couldn’t enter? Prevented from accessing their heart? A heart you so LONGED to touch and feel? When another’s heart is barricaded and you aren’t allowed access to show them the passion you feel, it can become very confusing and frustrating.
This scene, from my absolute all-time favorite love story, “Children of a Lesser God”, explains it well…
Some quotes on unrequited love:
“To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.” –Frederico Garcia Lorca, “Blood Wedding and Yerma”
- “Because what’s worse than knowing you want something, besides knowing you can never have it?” —James Patterson, “The Angel Experiment”
- “I wanted so badly to lie down next to her on the couch, to wrap my arms around her and sleep. Not f*ck, like in those movies. Not even have sex. Just sleep together in the most innocent sense of the phrase. But I lacked the courage and she had a boyfriend and I was gawky and she was gorgeous and I was hopelessly boring and she was endlessly fascinating. So I walked back to my room and collapsed on the bottom bunk, thinking that if people were rain, I was drizzle and she was hurricane.” –John Green, “Looking for Alaska”
To love and not be loved in return may be the deepest cut of all.
But here’s the incredible news…
That book, “Song of Solomon”, from the Bible? Yea, it’s a painting of God’s love and holy passion for His children. His heart burns for us. Our Heavenly Father yearns for relationship with us. Notice, I didn’t say that God longs for us to join a particular denomination or memorize The Lord’s Prayer or know The Apostle’s Creed. While there may not be a thing wrong with that, God’s first passion is our heart.
Remember, how I said love will make you say and do some crazy things? Check out the book of Hosea, from the Bible, sometime. Here’s the text of a lesson I taught on Hosea and Gomer (his wife, who was also a whore). Let’s fast-forward to the end of the story, after Gomer has left Hosea twice…
“Hosea, the rumors were true. Gomer HAS hit rock bottom. She has sold herself into prostitution. She is going to be AUCTIONED OFF today. I’ve just seen her.” So, Hosea leaves the fields and heads to his tent, he gathers a bundle of barley and the few dollars that he collected from the last crusade, and heads to the marketplace, driven by that INDESTRUCTIBLE, DEVINE LOVE…
The bidding has started very low. Because Gomer is a fallen woman. She stands there, abused, without hope, without happiness. And then, for whatever reason, Gomer remembers her marriage to Hosea, her children, and all she has lost. She remembers her many lovers, who dragged her down.
The men mock her, the women in the crowd laugh, and a few dollars are offered for this exhausted, used up SLAVE. The bid is not very high for this almost worthless woman… when a man steps in and bids all that he has. Hosea buys his wife back, makes his way to center stage with her, covers her in a robe, then turns to his wife, with tender eyes and says, “come home. you are to live with me many days; you must not be a prostitute or be intimate with any man, then I will live with you.”In other words, Hosea said, “look, I’m sick and tired of all this. You have to get your act together. I have had nothing but grace for you and you’ve taken advantage of it! Now Stop!” Hosea had forgiven time and time again. Tears begin to flow down her cheeks as she realizes she has been redeemed by one who loves her.
The entire story of Hosea and Gomer is a picture of God’s love for His children.
“Song of Solomon” and “Hosea” are two explicit and beautiful pictures of a very passionate God, who longs for nothing more than our love in return.
We are loved by a God who is very used to unrequited love, but will stop at NOTHING to get our attention and have our hearts.
Our God is a romantic and would leave 99 to come after just one of us.
Our worlds are different. Many times, we can’t imagine how a perfect and holy God would even want to have a relationship with us, a bunch of filthy, “no good”, ragamuffins, but God’s love isn’t like our love. His love isn’t based on condition and it knows no end. His love has no bounds.
God’s love is the most gentle and fierce love you could ever imagine.
Remember the earlier clip from, “Children of a Lesser God”? Check out how the story ends…
“You’re our last hope. Is it not true
that in you the orphan finds mercy?”
Hang my locket around your neck,
wear my ring on your finger.
Love is invincible facing danger and death.
Passion laughs at the terrors of hell.
The fire of love stops at nothing—
it sweeps everything before it.
Flood waters can’t drown love,
torrents of rain can’t put it out.
Love can’t be bought, love can’t be sold—
it’s not to be found in the marketplace.
Song of Solomon 8:6-8
Like Gomer, we have been given a good thing in life, yet we continue to return to an old mindset, shunning the passionate love of God. I know where I used to be, the things I used to do. I know very well the old Steve. God paid a high price and bought me. He paid for me, my soul and yours, with the ransomed life of Jesus.
God looked unrequited love in the face and said, “watch this!”
If there is something that has you enslaved today and ready to be set free, and taken home, then step down off that auction block! Say no to the things that are bidding for your soul! Come home. Leave the old ways, old actions, unhealthy relationships and no-good behavior behind…and never look back.