March 15, 2013 § 8 Comments
Humans, in their love relationships, are like porcupines out on a cold winter night. In order to keep from freezing the animals huddle close together. But as soon as they are near enough to provide critical warmth, they get poked by each other’s quills. Reflexively, to stop the pain and irritation of too much closeness, the porcupines separate. But once they separate, they become cold again. The chill sends them back toward each other once more, only to be impaled all over again by each other’s quills. So they retreat again. And then approach again. Endlessly.
And the cycle repeats, as they struggle to find a comfortable distance between entanglement and freezing.
~Deborah Luepnitz, from the book Schopenhauer’s Porcupines.