June 25, 2015 § 4 Comments
I realized that i updated all of you about getting published a few months ago, but never really shared the details, in case some of you wanted to buy it. My bad!
Well here you go:
Go ahead. Show some love.
January 18, 2015 § 8 Comments
I know I have been away for quite a while, but this update was important for each one of you. Or at least it was important for me to announce it out loud!
I have been published! An anthology of poetry by the name of Cafuné is out, by Archana Kumar. Well that’s me!
You can buy it online through Amazon this month onwards. I will keep you guys posted as to when does the book start selling through Amazon. Meanwhile, the book is out for worldwide sales through the publisher’s website. Here’s the link:
Well, lay your hands on the book. You can also connect with me through the Facebook page of the book. Here’s the link for it:
I hope to see reviews from all you poets, who have been encouraging all these years. You have been a great support system. Each comment by each one of you, has been delightful. Thank you.
Lots of love,
October 11, 2014 § 14 Comments
So I have been away from this space for a while. A lot of stuff was happening, I didn’t know how to deal with it, so I resorted to the easier way. The path that I always choose: escapism.
This time around, I not only avoided myself but also other people. And most importantly, I gave up on writing. Crazy as it may seem, but that’s what I did.
See i don’t consider myself to be a writer in any sense of the word. But venting the whole damn thing out on a piece of paper does help. Especially on long, cold nights when your sense of direction is lost & you seek destruction within you.
But not writing it down taught me a few things too. Like how to deal with misery without letting it find an outlet. And the fact that it doesn’t kill you in the end, no matter how pathetic it may be.
Am I over this sadomasochistic phase?
Not really. I’m still dealing with it. It’s a lot better, yes.
Anyway, this post was just to tell you guys that I am still alive, that I am not living in some part of the world where there is no internet connection, and that there is still hope. Hope, that I might pick up that pen again sometime and punish you with my wretched posts.
July 26, 2014 § 10 Comments
“It’s fucked up.”
“I want to die.”
“Nothing makes sense to me anymore. Everything seems absurd, like Camus described in The Myth of Sisyphus.”
“It’s the book talking, not you.”
“No really. I’ve lost purpose and reason. And that zeal to live too. That ‘life’ that kept me alive has rusted.”
“What do you want?”
“I want to lie beside him, read books, cook for him, travel with him, be with him. And I want to be loved.”
“There are people who love you!”
“I don’t want them. Barring my immediate family, I don’t want anyone. Anyone, but him.”
“He doesn’t want you.”
“That’s the problem. That’s why all I want to do is drown in this whirlpool of misery and find the black pit that will eat me up.”
“Are you reading too much shit?”
“I haven’t been reading at all. I feel like Sylvia Plath.”
“WHAT! JUST BECAUSE A GUY DOES NOT LOVE YOU, YOU WANT TO DIE?”
“WHEN DID YOU BECOME THIS WEAK?”
“When I realized that he doesn’t love me the way I want to be loved.”
“So? He isn’t obliged to!”
“I know, but I’m tired of this one-sided non-existent relationship.”
“There will NEVER be one.”
“You realize that this is exactly what’s killing me, right?”
“You gotta face it baby. You’re not his cup of tea.”
“I don’t want to be anyone’s cup of tea. I want to be the bed they sleep in every night, or the arms that holds them while the sun goes up every morning.”
“Cliché. Touché. Get over it.”
“I am in love. I can’t.”
“He is that bird who won’t settle down for you.”
“I’m not asking him to settle down. I want to fly with him too.”
“He prefers solitude.”
“I won’t disturb his solitude. Our solitude’s can mate.”
“You’re going to get hurt.”
“Well I am hurt and bruised and broken.”
“Pull yourself together.”
“It’s hard to do.”
“I’m in love.”
“Fine stay in love. With a man doesn’t care about your existence most days. Who isn’t aware of what you’re going through. Who isn’t with you, but isn’t away from you either. Who would probably beat the life out of you. Who, even if in love, would not step out of his shell to say it out loud. Who is enjoying all the attention and love you’re giving him, without expecting him to give it a name. Who will NEVER EVER love you back the way you love him.
FINE, STAY IN LOVE.”
That’s when my heart melted and picked up that knife to make The Final Cut.
July 4, 2014 § 9 Comments
I love you too.
So much that I can’t even put it to words.
So much that it consumes me.
So much that some nights I sleep with the idea of you.
So much that most mornings I wake up next to you.
So much that if it weren’t for you, I wouldn’t have known me.
So much that every dialogue, every memory is clearly etched in my memory.
So much that I’m going to spend the rest of my life knowing that I once felt a love this pure, this strong.
And now so much, that I’ll die with the knowledge that it wasn’t unrequited after all.
June 28, 2014 § 19 Comments
It hurts at a lot of places inside you.
When he doesn’t reply to your text; when he shrugs at the mere mention of the idea of love; when you see he understands what pain you are in and does not do anything to change it; when he denies living in denial mode; when he secretly smiles at your poetry but never let’s you know; when he lives in a shell and its almost impossible for you to break it because he is resisting so much; when his touch touches you a lot deeper than the surface and he knows it; when the world ceases to move around you when he’s around and yet he’s aloof; when you watch him having a supposed illicit relationship with the freedom that he so badly needs.
It hurts. It cringes your insides. You become so desperate that you start selling yourself to him. You need him so badly yet you can’t reach out to him. You end up waking from your otherwise normal sleep at odd hours, crying your guts out. On those nights, sometimes you call him up because you want him to tell you that he could come over that very moment to hold you; sometimes you don’t because you’re a strong independent woman who must learn to handle herself.
You forget that there is something called self respect that must restrain you when the love is not reciprocated. The “self respect” has been taken out of your system, tied in a bundle and put at his feet. He might not even be aware of its existence because he’s never really seen it.
You become hopeless. Not that you stop expecting, but being hopeless assures that your expectations are grounded. So a single phone call of his can brighten you up for days.
You want to kiss him but you can’t because you don’t know how will he handle your need for intimacy. What if he misunderstands the purest of your emotions (barring the dirty thoughts) for lust? You can’t let that happen. So you hold back, resist, fight the urge to run your fingers tenderly through his hair and just kiss him!
At times you feel victimized. You hate him for not loving you back , for not reciprocating, for not understanding the intensity, for not surprising you with flowers.
On other occasions, you’ll feel as though it is only this emotion that is keeping you alive and you can spend the rest of your life staying enveloped in its arms. The arms of the emotion, not necessarily his.
It will make you, the epitome of confidence and flamboyance, conscious in his presence. The tomboy in you will suddenly be transformed into a prim and proper lady.
You wouldn’t mind driving down 20 odd kilometres only to be with him for half an hour. And the moment he’ll say that he feels guilty for not spending enough time with you, your heart will do a few somersault’s!
You’re in a constant battle with yourself. A part of you feels beautiful, the other scarred. The beautiful parts will want to continue loving him forever, the latter part makes you want to scream. A part of you feels important, the other rots.
You know that you’re headed perhaps headed for a head on crash, towards a dead end. But the least thing you’re worried about is crashing, or finding your way back. It feels as though the moth has found its flame. As though the burnt child has fallen in love with the fire.
It creates self doubt in you. You ask yourself all the time as to why would he not love you back? You’re irked with the thought that he might be capable of feeling a love so deep that can drown you, he just cannot feel it for you. Don’t even get me started about what that does to your confidence.
You would really have to work on your patience level to not tell him that of course there’s a way out. That of course something can be done about it. That of course the whole situation can be changed. If only, he could put his mental block aside and give himself a chance. You find that patience in his silence, in his resistance.
All that matters is his happiness. You don’t think twice before doing permanent damage to your self, for his momentary pleasure. People will call you silly and blind and what not, but it won’t matter. As long as he’s happy, it won’t budge your adamant ideologies about love and whatever pain it brings along with it.
Unrequited love alters the way you think, behave, function. It gets into your head and doesn’t get out. It gives you strength, yet slowly consumes you like a poison.
It makes you wish that you could look him in the eye one day, and finally get to say “I love you, too”.
And then once you start a “discussion” about unrequited love on your blog and read so many different view points, you ask yourself: “What am I doing?”
Someone might knock sense into your head and remind you that YOU are your priority, not love. That you need to find fulfillment in yourself first, before offering some of yours to someone else. That you contain all the answers to the questions you’ve never really asked him. That you’re the one living in denial mode, not him. That it’s okay to be in love,and not loved back. That you’re capable of living your life, loving him, while not being “together” with him. That you need to let go.
And you let him be.
June 27, 2014 § 16 Comments
THE SLEEVELESS HEART
Finding myself in Love I do my best
To embody the love I feel for them
In each of my words and actions
They may get it, but sometimes not
This probably has as much to do
With them as it has to do with me
If their response disappoints me
Then it wasn’t in actual fact love
But just a lesson I’ve yet to learn.